I recently started reading a book published from Osho teachings called Love, Freedom and Aloneness which contained many beautiful nuggets, and also many things I didn't resonate with at all (hence not completing it).
Osho was a wonderful, deeply connected spiritual teacher positioned to work with the energies of the 60's and 70's when "Free love" was happening and women got the pill so could have loads of sexual encounters without the fear of getting pregnant.
He was an angel sent to teach humans how to express themselves fully and give themselves permission to love. And yet as with all the great teachers his words and processes were often misinterpreted, misunderstood and misused.
Although I don't resonate with much of what he says, there are things that speak to my spirit.
Many of his teachings were of the old model, words that resonated with the old paradigm, which now people hold to and try to be spiritually correct by not getting attached, not feeling they should want to be in relationship, not feeling it's ok to have a commitment. Old paradigm energies.
Every time period is provided with teachers that resonate with the way people want to learn at the time. They look how the people will need them to look - Jesus, Buddha, Socrates etc. His teachings don't fit now because the world has changed, the energetics have shifted.
That being said, in one of the lectures transcribed in the book (he apparently never wrote any of his books, but his team would record and transcribe and publish the lectures he gave) he shares how the old adage "Know thyself" is incorrect because to know thyself is a mental activity.
Osho is an advocate of self love before anything. That's what I completely resonate with in his teachings. He says to love thyself is all one needs. When we love ourselves we are healing ourselves. We are giving to ourselves the thing that we crave from all of our lovers and the thing only we can give to ourselves.
And this I completely resonate with.
Osho was a wonderful, deeply connected spiritual teacher positioned to work with the energies of the 60's and 70's when "Free love" was happening and women got the pill so could have loads of sexual encounters without the fear of getting pregnant.
He was an angel sent to teach humans how to express themselves fully and give themselves permission to love. And yet as with all the great teachers his words and processes were often misinterpreted, misunderstood and misused.
Although I don't resonate with much of what he says, there are things that speak to my spirit.
Many of his teachings were of the old model, words that resonated with the old paradigm, which now people hold to and try to be spiritually correct by not getting attached, not feeling they should want to be in relationship, not feeling it's ok to have a commitment. Old paradigm energies.
Every time period is provided with teachers that resonate with the way people want to learn at the time. They look how the people will need them to look - Jesus, Buddha, Socrates etc. His teachings don't fit now because the world has changed, the energetics have shifted.
That being said, in one of the lectures transcribed in the book (he apparently never wrote any of his books, but his team would record and transcribe and publish the lectures he gave) he shares how the old adage "Know thyself" is incorrect because to know thyself is a mental activity.
Osho is an advocate of self love before anything. That's what I completely resonate with in his teachings. He says to love thyself is all one needs. When we love ourselves we are healing ourselves. We are giving to ourselves the thing that we crave from all of our lovers and the thing only we can give to ourselves.
And this I completely resonate with.
My favourite teacher at the moment is Matt Kahn. In this video Love is the only answer he explains why the only way to grow is to love yourself through every experience you have.
Since finding him one day on YouTube and really taking this teaching seriously, my life has changed immeasurably.
Although I began my self love journey over 6 years ago, I've found that each time I reach a new level of awareness the universe sends me opportunities to go back to step one. To begin from.the start. To go deeper into love with my self.
The ending of a romantic relationship has been my most recent opportunity to do so. And when I get into the next one, I will remember all of the lessons I learned in the one that has just ended, and above all else love myself first.
Since finding him one day on YouTube and really taking this teaching seriously, my life has changed immeasurably.
Although I began my self love journey over 6 years ago, I've found that each time I reach a new level of awareness the universe sends me opportunities to go back to step one. To begin from.the start. To go deeper into love with my self.
The ending of a romantic relationship has been my most recent opportunity to do so. And when I get into the next one, I will remember all of the lessons I learned in the one that has just ended, and above all else love myself first.
I began writing this post because of the above picture my friend shared on Facebook.
Osho also talks about commitment without attachment in the afore mentioned book.
When as children we don't feel we receive the love we need (which is HUGE amounts as we still remember the level of love we felt as spirits totally connected with source and crave that) most of us develop unhealthy attachments to anyone who shows us a little bit of love.
Then as girls we are taught that if s boy hits you it means he likes you. As boys you are taught that it's best to fight it out when you feel an emotion. All this weird training we receive that goes completely against what our souls know, and yet with time and enough consistency believe.
Unhealthy attachment comes at a price. For me, it costs me my sanity. I can't have the type of romantic relationship I desire because my fear of abandonment and rejection get in the way. Worse, cause me to manifest romantic relationships that ensure I continue feeling that fear because I am constantly being rejected and abandoned. Not only by the other, but mostly by myself.
The only remedy is loving myself and seeing how that changes everything. After constantly listening to the Matt Kahn video I have dug deep and am on a radical self love tip.
I constantly speak to my inner child throughout each waking moment, telling her how well we are doing, congratulating us when we are feeling anything and everything. Allowing her to say what I would previously have pushed down and suppressed, loving myself when I feel insecure or anxious or lonely. loving myself through it all.
Self love is the key to unlocking everything I want in life.
When I love myself I fill the hole in my soul that I used to fill be going shopping, by not eating, by over eating, by excess drinking. When I love myself I am whole. And only I can do this for myself. No other can ever love me the way I need or desire to be. It has to come from me to me.
First
Before I love an other....
When I wake up in the morning I say put loud or in my head "I love you 'Seyi." When I feel anxious or insecure during the day I say "I love you 'Seyi." When I feel upset or angry I say 'I love you 'Seyi."
We are here to love. To love ourselves first. Through every feeling and experience we are having, or not having and are upset with the lack of. We are here to love ourselves first.
Osho also talks about commitment without attachment in the afore mentioned book.
When as children we don't feel we receive the love we need (which is HUGE amounts as we still remember the level of love we felt as spirits totally connected with source and crave that) most of us develop unhealthy attachments to anyone who shows us a little bit of love.
Then as girls we are taught that if s boy hits you it means he likes you. As boys you are taught that it's best to fight it out when you feel an emotion. All this weird training we receive that goes completely against what our souls know, and yet with time and enough consistency believe.
Unhealthy attachment comes at a price. For me, it costs me my sanity. I can't have the type of romantic relationship I desire because my fear of abandonment and rejection get in the way. Worse, cause me to manifest romantic relationships that ensure I continue feeling that fear because I am constantly being rejected and abandoned. Not only by the other, but mostly by myself.
The only remedy is loving myself and seeing how that changes everything. After constantly listening to the Matt Kahn video I have dug deep and am on a radical self love tip.
I constantly speak to my inner child throughout each waking moment, telling her how well we are doing, congratulating us when we are feeling anything and everything. Allowing her to say what I would previously have pushed down and suppressed, loving myself when I feel insecure or anxious or lonely. loving myself through it all.
Self love is the key to unlocking everything I want in life.
When I love myself I fill the hole in my soul that I used to fill be going shopping, by not eating, by over eating, by excess drinking. When I love myself I am whole. And only I can do this for myself. No other can ever love me the way I need or desire to be. It has to come from me to me.
First
Before I love an other....
When I wake up in the morning I say put loud or in my head "I love you 'Seyi." When I feel anxious or insecure during the day I say "I love you 'Seyi." When I feel upset or angry I say 'I love you 'Seyi."
We are here to love. To love ourselves first. Through every feeling and experience we are having, or not having and are upset with the lack of. We are here to love ourselves first.
Another of my favourite teachers at the moment is a collective called Elohim who speak through Veronica. They are so funny and direct. Check out this video about the heart Chakra balance
Love it.
Love it.
I know there is a way to be fully committed to a person and yet have none of the unhealthy attachments that arise from attachment disorder and separation anxiety.
The only way to ensure that happens is to love yourself more than you ever thought possible, and learning how to do so happens one breath at a time, one 'I love you' to yourself at a time, one kind gesture to yourself at a time.
Don't expect self love levels to change overnight. For me this has been a process of undoing the self loathing I felt most of my life, which takes time. But it works and it is amazing.
Matt Kahn says that when we first start doing the 'I love yous' it doesn't feel right, and that's because our subconscious mind doesn't believe it. Our inner child isnt used to hearing that from us. It's as though our inner world is in a minus credit, like when you've got an overdraft on your bank account of thousands, and it takes a few years to pay it off and bring it back to zero. That's why at first the 'I love yous' sound and probably feel insincere.
Keep at it. Sit in front of the mirror and smile and start telling yourself 'I love you.' after a while you will not just feel a change, you will see it.
The only way to ensure that happens is to love yourself more than you ever thought possible, and learning how to do so happens one breath at a time, one 'I love you' to yourself at a time, one kind gesture to yourself at a time.
Don't expect self love levels to change overnight. For me this has been a process of undoing the self loathing I felt most of my life, which takes time. But it works and it is amazing.
Matt Kahn says that when we first start doing the 'I love yous' it doesn't feel right, and that's because our subconscious mind doesn't believe it. Our inner child isnt used to hearing that from us. It's as though our inner world is in a minus credit, like when you've got an overdraft on your bank account of thousands, and it takes a few years to pay it off and bring it back to zero. That's why at first the 'I love yous' sound and probably feel insincere.
Keep at it. Sit in front of the mirror and smile and start telling yourself 'I love you.' after a while you will not just feel a change, you will see it.
Hafiz is a favourite poet of mine, so I shall end with this love poem of his:
It happens all the time in heaven,
And some day
It will begin to happen Again on earth
That men and women who are married,
And men and men who are Lovers,
And women and women
Who give each other Light,
Often will get down on their knees
And while so tenderly
Holding their lover's hand,
With tears in their eyes,
Will sincerely speak, saying,
'My dear, How can I be more loving to you; How can I be more kind?'
It happens all the time in heaven,
And some day
It will begin to happen Again on earth
That men and women who are married,
And men and men who are Lovers,
And women and women
Who give each other Light,
Often will get down on their knees
And while so tenderly
Holding their lover's hand,
With tears in their eyes,
Will sincerely speak, saying,
'My dear, How can I be more loving to you; How can I be more kind?'