BRINGING OUT THE BEAUTY IN YOUR LIFE
All About 'Seyi
My purpose is to bring beauty and love into each moment, and to help (mostly) women become the version of themselves they've always dreamed of. By providing you with tools to help you identify and walk your unique path, you will find and fall deeply in love with your self
Instead of writing a bunch of boring corporate crap, I thought I'd keep it real and tell you a bit about me
I started with a list of key words that resonated and took it from there I'll begin with my name, which as Jason Mraz says, is my virtue. My name is Oluseyi Ife Bidemi, which means God has given this child love in my absence. When I realised what all of my names mean put together I was blown away. Throughout my life, while looking everywhere for love but in the place I would find it - from myself - I had abandoned myself. I ignored my needs and felt like a victim, abused and rejected by those I loved and wanted to be validated by. Once I began the process of finding and falling in love with myself I realised that God had never left me, and that I had been the One I was looking for all along.
I believe there is beauty in all things, and my super power is finding and bring it out into the open for all to see. One of the ways this looks like, is that I can feel peoples deep dreams and inspire them to lean towards them so much they simply have to start following them, I also love covering objects with sequins, gold acrylic paint and stickers Dancing was my first, and continues to be my first love. When I am dancing the world falls into balance, and if I go a few days without moving my body I feel out of place, and life loses it's sheen for me. After years of clubbing (partying on the nightclub scene), what kept me going was not only the draw of getting male attention, but the calling of the dance floor. Being in the middle of a space, surrounded by bodies moving to the beat filled my heart with a light I couldn't understand. I always thought it was the drugs and alcohol, but after I removed them, I found out it was something more, something deeper than a physical experience. When I dance I am more in tune with God, with my true self than at any other time. When I dance I am whole and free, I am in ecstasy that no substance can deliver, and no one can take away from me. Love is my favourite word. Each morning I set an intention to operate from the core place of love that resides within me heart. The Love Revolution teachings of Matt Kahn have gotten me through some challenging times in particular "You deserve more love not less." As an expert by experience, I am a powerful, gentle and successful self love coach, currently working mostly with women. I use the tools and practices that sustained me during my quest to find and fall in love myself to facilitate the transformation of my clients through one-to-one sessions, VIP packages and group coaching workshops In order to demonstrate to my subconscious mind that I am loving myself at a physical level I have become a self care expert I advise my clients on ways to love, nurture and honour their physical body through various activities such as taking sea salt infused baths, and drinking plenty of water Having discovered yin yoga in 2015, I have become something of a yin yoga enthusiast, and it formed an integral part of my self care regime Check out all of the lovely things people have said about me in my capacity as an Inspirational speaker In October 2014 I held the first Socktober Fest event in a local cafe, and it was so successful I had to do it again the following year. I idea for the Socktober Fest came from a dude called The Kid President in America, who wanted to do something good for the homeless people in his local area, so he started collecting socks for them. This is now a worldwide phenomenon, where instead of doing "Stop-Tober" people do "Socktober" and collect socks and give them to homeless people. So I organised a family day, and the entrance fee was a pair of new thermal socks. A few days later a bunch of us went out and handed the socks out to local homeless people. It was awesome. The local Women's Peace Federation group helped me out with this, and donated three big boxes of socks for the 2014 event. After getting into recovery from multiple addictions in 2009, and being sober ever since, I had to find new ways of having fun. I am now an avid fun seeker, and have a childlike appetite for doing only that which I enjoy. I have had to rethink the things I enjoy doing, and yet I have not often been bored since I made this commitment to myself. I realised very quickly that I don't need alcohol or drugs to relax and dance, and I certainly don't need to take my clothes off to have a good time One of my other super powers is laughter, and I have been known to laugh (inappropriately) loud in the cinema, at times to the embarrassment of the people accompanying me (I also enjoy going to the cinema alone, and am a huge film buff - read addict) My relationship with my Inner child has become one of the most important relationships in my life, and I have found that as long as I acknowledge her in my endeavours life runs so much more smoothly, and I have more fun because she is a lot of fun and silly and playful I love YouTube and have a wonderful channel, that I post my thoughts and meditations on an almost weekly basis, make sure you subscribe to my channel to get the latest videos each week Developing a relationship with God has been another of the most challenging and ultimately fulfilling parts of my quest to fall in love with myself. When I first embarked on the quest I hated God and everything to do with him. I felt judged, persecuted and punished, and the fear of God was real. After much internal seeking I realised I am one with God, an inseparable part of God, and that God is Love When people hear me talk of God they always expect me to be a Christian, and although i was baptised in a Christian ceremony, I do not class myself as any form of religion, I am however deeply spiritual, and seek each day to be in deep communion with the Divinity that is within me. I believe one aspect of my life purpose is to show people how to live spiritual (non airy fairy, hippy type) practice as their life, being always connected, always in communication with God and your Divine Team, not as something you do I love meditation, and do various practices, but my favourite by far is simply setting my alarm for 10 minutes in the morning and evening, taking myself to a quiet space, closing my eyes and resting back onto my pillows. I breathe deeply and slowly, and tell myself "i love you" over and over until the alarm sounds. Sometimes i say it out loud, other times i repeat it in my head I love connecting with the energies of my Divine Team, and all of the angels, goddesses and Ascended Masters around me, supporting and guiding me along my quest to fall in love with myself. I have a unique physical guidance system that my angelic team use to communicate with me, that I will share about in a vlog or blog one day One of the skills i have had to cultivate during the journey is how to be still. It is not something that comes easy to me. I used to have a lot of fear and anxiety energy running through my nervous system. I am so much better at being still, but it is something I have to practice at times. Especially when I'm going through less easy experiences In 2009, after really committing to my self love quest and leaving a job I hated to immerse myself in the foundation course in a form of energy healing, I got into 12 step recovery for multiple addictions, primarily codependency. By working on the emotional and spiritual dis-ease, I got sober from using prescription drugs, marijuana and fags, caffeine and alcohol. I have been abstinent and sober ever since. I also decided to be celibate for 2 years, to connect with what I wanted from life, those 2 years became 5. Those years of being with myself was a truly great decision, and one everyone should try in their life (maybe not 5 years, but some time getting to know who you really are without thinking about someone else) Freedom is an important word for me, and is something I am actively cultivating in my beliefs and behaviours each day. I am exploring what it means to be truly free from limiting beliefs, and the layers of crud I built around my heart in order to survive life I am deeply interested in neuro science, and intend to study it seriously once day. I love that we can change our whole lives by activating our brains and rewiring them to think in new ways that serve us rather than enslave us I came across the Universal Peace Federation by way of the Women's Peace Federation branch in the city I lived. They gave me an award in 2014 for the work I was doing with young people, and also to acknowledge the work I had done on myself to transform my life and the lives of the people around me In 2013 when the new Library of Birmingham opened I was honoured to be chosen as the Face of Health and Wellbeing. Some of the projects I've worked on recently include facilitating sexual health and relationship workshops in schools for the Terrence Higgins Trust and the NHS REAL Project (before it moved to Umbrella) and organising the THT Young Peoples Conference in 2016 As you can see, I have done some very interesting things over the years. My life only really began to get good when I stopped using men, drugs and alcohol as a medication for my life I had my children when I was very young, aged 13 and 17, and lost all faith and hope that dreams could come true. Since following my heart and finding and falling in love with myself, I have come to realise that life gives me what I put into it, and that everything I experienced was moulding me into the woman I am today. I realise that nothing was wrong, and that everything was perfectly timed to ensure i moved towards fulfilling my part in the big plan for an awesome world for everyone My journey is by far means over, my life is not at all perfect, and neither am I . I, like everyone else, am just doing my best to make sense of the life I want to live and to lean into the discomfort of growth and take baby steps towards making my biggest and most outrageous dreams come true Thank you for being with me as I walk this journey to love |